• Marni @ Raising Littles

To Hug or Not to Hug?

Updated: Jul 2

In our family we don't force kids to hug anyone they don't want to hug- EVER.

We give them the option and we say out loud, "do you want to hug anyone goodbye?"

We do this for a few reasons:

  1. We want our children to learn from a young age that their body is THEIR body and they have control over it (for the most part, with the exception of diaper changes and hygiene).

  2. We respect that each of our children is unique and some might like physical touch and others may not, so we leave it up to them if they want to do that.

  3. We want to teach our children that it is not their responsibility to make an adult feel happy. By asking it out loud in a question we are also making it clear to the adult/child involved that it is a choice- not an expectation- and we let our children choose.

  4. And most importantly we want to teach our children about consent from a young age. We want them to understand that they must ask to touch another person's body and that they need to be asked before someone touches their body (again with the exception of pediatricians, and caretakers who are cleaning a child).